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A word from the decaying mind of Paul Haines
Update from Jules
Thank you all for your messages of love and support for Paul. He is indeed very unwell but pain-free and relaxed and I am sure comforted by the knowledge he is very, very loved. He is at home with us where he belongs. I will not be doing facebook updates via his account, so keep an eye out for some blog entries as I endeavour to keep you up to date best I can. 

Thank you also for your offers of help. I am doing okay, mustering up strength (not sure where from) and that keeps me going, determined to do the best I can for both he and Isla throughout this time. Isla is also doing well and loving school where she is following in her dad's footsteps of becoming a voracious reader (jumping from level 1 to level 18 in her first assessment - most kids are still level 1). Her parents are super proud, no one more so than her daddy. She sits with him some nights when he is up and reads him her reader.

Forgive me for not responding to you all individually, but consider this a warm thank you from me and all the Haines family.

Current Music: XTC, Apple Venus

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taliehelene From: taliehelene Date: March 2nd, 2012 11:38 am (UTC) (Link)
Love and support to you, Jules. Strength is a strange thing - you muster what you have to. That seems to be how it works. If you are brave (and you are), you get what you need.

For my part - and I'm sure anyone else who's contacted you individually feels the same way - you don't need to reply to anything. This time is not about us. The important thing is there is lots of support on hand, whenever/however/if you need it - and with no obligation to need it. Your privacy and space is super important.

Level 18! Awesome! You guys must be so delighted with Isla's reading.

When I was a little schoolgirl - and I was literally a little one, the smallest kid in the school until Grade 2, and then I only lost my "title" because my younger sister started prep - well, I picked up a found-object mantra from somewhere. It was a quatrain about reading, and I loved it because I sensed there were ways of growing that were not tied to the genetics of being tall (which I was never going to be). There were more important ways of growing.

I thought you guys might like to share that quatrain with Isla. I suspect she will feel the magic in it too.

the more you read
the more you know
the more you know
the more you grow

Much love,
karenmiller From: karenmiller Date: March 2nd, 2012 11:52 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks for the taking the time, Jules. But only do what you can as far as LJ goes. We're not the point. Paul is. Just give him a hug and a kiss from all of us out here in LJ land, and remind him that he's in our thoughts and prayers ... as are you all.
dalekboy From: dalekboy Date: March 2nd, 2012 12:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
Glad he's pain free and home, and very glad you're managing okay. Nothing much I can do from NSW but wish there were.

Great news about Isla! Both our kids love their reading :)

Try to make some time to look after yourself, too. There's a big community here ready to step up to help out with things. Don't be afraid to ask for volunteers on here to pick up some groceries and drop them in if things are hectic, or do any of those other annoying jobs.

Take care.
benpeek From: benpeek Date: March 2nd, 2012 12:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
my love and support to all of you, jules. thank you for taking the time to update us.
ellen_datlow From: ellen_datlow Date: March 2nd, 2012 03:21 pm (UTC) (Link)
My love to you and Paul and Isla. Thank you for updating us and no, please do not feel you must respond.
wendy_waring From: wendy_waring Date: March 2nd, 2012 04:31 pm (UTC) (Link)
Jules, just a quiet nod to say thank you so much for letting us know how you're doing.
Steve Cameron From: Steve Cameron Date: March 2nd, 2012 09:26 pm (UTC) (Link)

Thanks for the update.

My thoughts are with you all.

eneit From: eneit Date: March 3rd, 2012 12:11 am (UTC) (Link)
wishing you all, all the strength you need. Thank you for letting us know.
chrisbarnes From: chrisbarnes Date: March 3rd, 2012 01:03 am (UTC) (Link)
Thank, Jules. I appreciate this. All the best.
Lee Battersby From: Lee Battersby Date: March 3rd, 2012 02:15 am (UTC) (Link)
Love and thoughts to you all from Lyn and myself. WA has never felt so far away, but if there's anything we can do then just say the word.
jain_again From: jain_again Date: March 3rd, 2012 04:57 am (UTC) (Link)
Thank you Jules for your update, you both must be so proud of Isla, . Good news that Paul is pain free, strength to you all.
From: drcow Date: March 3rd, 2012 10:38 am (UTC) (Link)
With you folk as parents, Isla is building on a great foundation.
Best wishes and as much strength as you want from us.
benpayne From: benpayne Date: March 4th, 2012 07:49 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks so much for taking the time to update us, Jules. Love to you all.
clockworkquill From: clockworkquill Date: March 4th, 2012 10:22 am (UTC) (Link)
Thank you Jules. I am thinking of Paul and you and Isla. Know that we all have the three of you fully in our hearts during these days now.
Michele Cashmore From: Michele Cashmore Date: March 4th, 2012 12:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thx so much Jules for keeping us updated. I know how hard this is and words of comfort don't really help at this time. Support is here. It's always hard to ask for help during grief - no expectations to respond to our messages but I will be checking in with you from time to time to see if there is anything I can assist with. Sending big luv to you, Paul, Isla and the rest of your family. Much love Michele x
suegardner From: suegardner Date: March 4th, 2012 06:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
Lots of love from me to all of you. Don't forget to look after yourself too, Jules. Big hugs from a very grey and damp UK xx
marlowe1 From: marlowe1 Date: March 4th, 2012 08:30 pm (UTC) (Link)
Thanks for the updates.

BTW, I sent money to Paul's paypal account. It's not much but it's the royalty that I owe him for TBCM.
flinthart From: flinthart Date: March 5th, 2012 10:35 am (UTC) (Link)

I'm working backwards through time here. Just read the announcement that Paul was gone.

I meant to post here earlier. But... there's a point where words aren't useful any more, and Paul and I had reached it.

And to be honest - I have a daughter Isla's age. The simple image of Isla reading to Paul absolutely destroyed me.

Take care. I wish you and Isla the very best.

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